Do you want to hear something interesting? Okay, good, because I want to tell it.

When my mother’s “Celebration of Life” was scheduled, my sister called me to tell me when it is.  She told me nothing else.  I know my mom pretty well so I made the decision to wear a bright yellow dress (yellow was my mom’s favorite color).  I show up at my childhood home where the event was held.  Everyone was in a bright color.  Very few were in black.  I was outside in front of the house when another lady was walking in.  I greeted her and she mentioned that they were all informed that party-goers were asked to wear something bright and/or asian themed.  My sister didn’t say one word about the dress code to me.  I wore yellow because my gut said so, not giving any thought to what other people will be wearing.  When the lady told me the dress code,  I realised instantly why Kristen didn’t mention it.  I showed up in my awesome yellow dress and she was quite annoyed by that.  I also was not told about speeches.  I didn’t prepare one.  But many people talked, including my sister and for a very long time, she spoke.  And so did I, impromptu and unprepared.  Imagine doing that when almost everyone there has been told lies about you and they’re all looking at you with unnecessary and unwarranted daggers in their eyes, including my own children! That’s the power of someone with NPD.  As I was talking, my sister instructed someone to come and take the mic from me, even though I spoke for much less time than my sister or the others. And she did just that. You can see it on the video.  The speeches will be posted soon…

Before I go, I want to tell you one of my mom’s last words to me.  She said, as I was kneeling on the floor next to her hospital-style bed in the family room, the same bed my step-dad died in 6 months earlier, with my hands on her dying body and my head hanging over her left side, “You’re a good daughter.”  She maybe even said, “You’re the good daughter”.  Either way, I waited for that for 50 years.  And I got it!

She said a few other interesting things which I will write about very soon, as well.