My sister is an extremely successful narcissist. This is due to our morally ignorant and corrupt mother and, with that, eventually many, many others (who would never have been part of my destruction had it not been for my mother, as a mother is most naturally a child’s protector-which is not the case here).

My little half-sister (who my clinical and biblical narcissist sister and I share a dad with) had a surprise birthday celebration arranged for her by my narcissistic sister. My little sister and I have a birthday one day (but 6 years) apart, yet this surprise party was strictly for my little sister. My sister has never had a party for me nor has she come to any parties for me. At the time, I didn’t think anything of it. This will surprise no one who has any schooling at all on narcissistic abuse, coercive control, gaslighting and such.

This is a voicemail message from my narcissistic sister regarding the surprise party for our younger half-sister:

To the naked ear, this is a “sweet and innocent” voicemail. To a trained ear, or someone who knows how one with Narcissistic Personality Disorder operates, this is clearly the work of evil.

What I remember vividly was my narcissistic sister’s insistence that my then-boyfriend come as well. But why? Well, because a narcissistic abuser wants everyone else to also abuse you. Also, of course, my own children were there to watch and observe. And watching and observing me be disrespected and disregarded and me just “going with it” is a great way to do it (and-not-so-coincidentally, my then-boyfriend was abusive and eventually this abuse got physical). And doing this while she is showing love, respect, and appreciation to someone else (our little sister) is all the more impactful (I think this narcissistic tactic might be referred to as “Dog Whistling”).

Oh, readers, it is so hard to explain this. It is even harder to explain it without sounding like an ungrateful and jealous bad guy, which is entirely not the case at all.

I hope someday I can put it all together and have it make sense. I’m raising awareness and sensitivity so that people can stop it or at least not play into it. Pretty much my entire family, including my own children, have bought into my sister’s narrative and it is lonely, it is painful, it is infuriating.