I googled exactly this: “narcissistic sisters who turn sisters children against their mom”

Following this post at the bottom is the Google AI result from the query.

My previous post, Wedding Nosebleeds, about my daughter’s wedding where my sister was sitting in the front next to the groom’s mom and groom’s sister, failed to mention this: my sister could never have done any of this alone. She had my mom and my ex-husband to help her, and help each other, destroy me.

I know that evil will always exist in this world. There is no reasoning with evil. No one could have talked Hitler out of the slaughter of 6 million Jews. The question is, then, if we know we cannot stop Hitler from believing that the Jewish people must not be allowed to exist in this world, is it not up to “us” to prevent him from acting on it? Let’s take my sister, for example. Because I was the younger of the two of us, I had no idea my sister (and mom ) were my enemies or were not good or were just plain evil. To make that easier for some of you to swallow, I will replace the words “are evil” to “lacked reasonable goodness”. My mom, if it so happened that she wasn’t the one who passed along the “lack of reasonable goodness” seed to my sister, would have been the one to intervene, teach, and protect. She did none of those things. My step-dad, who was not necessarily evil, lacked…well, he just simply lacked. I would liken it to a serial killer who meets a partner-in-crime. Sometimes when serial killers partner up, it is said after evaluations that the “dumber” partner would have never participated in such acts had he never met the leading partner. I believe this to be true about my step-dad. Had he never met my mother, he may have never left his wife and children and, what’s more, never disinherited them. He did the former with my mother and the latter under my mother’s and sister’s “leadership”. (The math, here, should be easy: my sister had the most to gain from the “lack of reasonable goodness” of our mom and step-dad).

And I feel similarly about my brother-in-law, my sister’s husband. He just “lacks”. I imagine he is terrified of my sister. How could he NOT be? I do not believe he is evil, but it is clear he has no problem being part of something evil. Much like a Nazi sympathizer. He participates because he benefits financially, but also he participates because he, by doing so, avoids pain.

My heart aches everyday for my children. They seem to have absolutely no idea. If they do have an idea but still choose the ungodly path for whatever benefits they perceive they are receiving, well, that’s even more devastating because, to me, it means there’s little hope. They are her victims now but they don’t understand this. Eventually they will know all-too-well that it is IMPOSSIBLE that my sister (and their dad) have their best life and interest in mind. It’s beyond my understanding how everyone around us supports the evil (oh, sorry, “lack of reasonable goodness”). When “good” people don’t stand up and shout “STOP IT WHAT THE F*** IS GOING ON HERE”, things like the holocaust happen. This is my own personal holocaust and my sister is Hitler.

The video below is shortly after my mom died (late July/early August 2021) but before I knew my sister has a personality disorder. So the words and terms below from the google search I was not at all familiar with. I also had no idea how far she was going to take things with my three children.

I’m having a very hard time putting my heart and thoughts into words right now. Here’s the Google AI answer to “narcissistic sisters who turn sister’s children against their mom”

A narcissistic sister who turns her sister’s children against their mother is using a manipulative tactic called “parental alienation,” often fueled by a desire for control, to undermine the mother’s relationship with her children, potentially stemming from jealousy, unresolved family conflicts, or a need to feel superior by creating chaos within the family dynamic. 

Key points about this behavior: 

• Triangulation:

Narcissists frequently use triangulation, where they pit one person against another to gain power and attention. In this case, the narcissistic sister would use the children as a tool to criticize and undermine their mother, making the children feel loyal to her instead.

• Gaslighting:

They might subtly manipulate the children by planting seeds of doubt about their mother’s actions, making them question their own perceptions and believe the sister’s narrative instead.

• Playing the victim:

The narcissistic sister may portray herself as the wronged party, claiming the mother is mistreating her or the children, which can further alienate the kids from their mom.

• Negative reinforcement:

By showering the children with attention and praise when they side with her against their mother, the narcissistic sister reinforces this behavior. 

Impact on the children: 

• Confusion and anxiety:

Children caught in the middle of parental alienation often experience confusion and anxiety, struggling to understand why they should choose sides.

• Loyalty conflicts:

Feeling torn between their mother and their aunt can create significant emotional distress.

• Damaged relationships:

This behavior can lead to long-term damage to the mother-child bond and create tension within the family dynamic. 

What can be done: 

• Seek professional help:

If you suspect your sister is engaging in parental alienation, consider individual therapy to manage your emotions and develop coping strategies. 

• Set boundaries:

Clearly communicate with your sister that you will not tolerate her attempts to manipulate your children and establish firm boundaries regarding interactions with them. 

• Document everything:

Keep a record of your sister’s manipulative behavior, including dates, times, and specific instances to provide evidence if necessary.